There are several thoughts that my mind is occupied with over the past few days. I guess it happens with many people who are getting into that different phase of life - and into a different family as well.
As I am packing my stuff to go to Chennai, my thoughts keep drifting back to the days when I had initially moved into the city about 7 years back as a raw, fresh out of college, girl. Oh, how much has life changed. It was as if it was only yesterday - me getting angry and upset with my parents for leaving me alone here in this big, bad city, initial troubles with roomies, the ‘home-sickness’ factor, exploring the city with my batch mates, the chats and gossips in the SEBI Gaurav (Oshiwara) benches, which would well extend into mid-nights, the train travel, Nariman Pt., VT and its old-world charm, Thane days, WTC office days, batch friendships, jealousies and new-found friendships– its almost like a walk down the memory lane.
In hindsight, Bombay - and the Single life - has indeed taught me a lot through my spinster days when I have been living alone. Other than taking care of the routine stuff yourself , you also do not have anyone to open the door and welcome you when u reach home!! That apart, there are the usual traits of a girl living alone in a big, bad city and the typical adjectives that one would tend to use in such cases – Independent, Bold, Confident, Thinker, Intelligent (ok...the latter part was over-done :p) etc.
But there are a lot of things that I would probably miss from my ‘being a Miss’ days to my ensuing status change. Freedom, Flexibilities, a lot of ‘Me’ time which gives immense scope for introspection, living life on an impulse, vegetating on the couch before the Idiot box on holidays :p, and the list can go on.....
I do not know how much life is going to change post-marriage. New people, new relationships, new role-responsibilities, probably new locations too, limelight focus on the to-be-bride – these can really add on to an already stressed mind. But all I know right now is that I am glad I had this period of spinsterhood to discover myself (and at times, discover my friends!) - it did help me cut down the raw elements in me and prepare me, to a certain extent, for facing sharper turns ahead in life!!
9 comments:
hey wishing u all the best as u get ready for a changeover from miss to mrs...
@Ramu Thanx a tonne :)
Hey Aparna,
U were lucky for those days which taught to be independent and even manage a home. Marriage is a lovely journey to find ur soul partner and it takes time to settle down. Go with a positive attitude and I am sure u r going to enjoy even more. Atleast u will have someone opening the door(naughty on my part) for u and will never be alone in life ( !!). All the best and have a blast. Didnt u have spinster parties or not?
Hmmm.. the transition is an "experience in itself".. and one has to go thru it sometime or the other.. All the best for ur wedding!!.. Cheers!!!
All the best Appy. The changeover is an experience in itself as Vikas has said. Marriage has its share of pros and cons.
I could so much relate to this post! and before I take this next step in my life I think I will explore myself a little more.
I am so happy to see someone I can relate myself so much to taking this next step. You would be someone I would look upto in the days to come so make the most of this new phase and share your thoughts once you are settled, would love to listen :)
All the best Aparna and have a wonderful life!!!
Loads of love,
Anjuli
@ All Thanx a tonne for the wishes!
all the best for the transition!!!
All the best for the coming change and a happy/sad end to your miss days. I just wonder how i will react when it will be my turn and i dread it as the unknown one is more scary than the known one :)
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