There are several thoughts that my mind is occupied with over the past few days. I guess it happens with many people who are getting into that different phase of life - and into a different family as well.
As I am packing my stuff to go to Chennai, my thoughts keep drifting back to the days when I had initially moved into the city about 7 years back as a raw, fresh out of college, girl. Oh, how much has life changed. It was as if it was only yesterday - me getting angry and upset with my parents for leaving me alone here in this big, bad city, initial troubles with roomies, the ‘home-sickness’ factor, exploring the city with my batch mates, the chats and gossips in the SEBI Gaurav (Oshiwara) benches, which would well extend into mid-nights, the train travel, Nariman Pt., VT and its old-world charm, Thane days, WTC office days, batch friendships, jealousies and new-found friendships– its almost like a walk down the memory lane.
In hindsight, Bombay - and the Single life - has indeed taught me a lot through my spinster days when I have been living alone. Other than taking care of the routine stuff yourself , you also do not have anyone to open the door and welcome you when u reach home!! That apart, there are the usual traits of a girl living alone in a big, bad city and the typical adjectives that one would tend to use in such cases – Independent, Bold, Confident, Thinker, Intelligent (ok...the latter part was over-done :p) etc.
But there are a lot of things that I would probably miss from my ‘being a Miss’ days to my ensuing status change. Freedom, Flexibilities, a lot of ‘Me’ time which gives immense scope for introspection, living life on an impulse, vegetating on the couch before the Idiot box on holidays :p, and the list can go on.....
I do not know how much life is going to change post-marriage. New people, new relationships, new role-responsibilities, probably new locations too, limelight focus on the to-be-bride – these can really add on to an already stressed mind. But all I know right now is that I am glad I had this period of spinsterhood to discover myself (and at times, discover my friends!) - it did help me cut down the raw elements in me and prepare me, to a certain extent, for facing sharper turns ahead in life!!
